As a single mother myself and only child of an extremely independent single mother, I know a thing or two about this gift and curse. It takes a strong human to ask for help and to be vulnerable in the process. Love watching you learn, heal and grow. Cheering from the sidelines, V.
You are doing so much better than you think you are navigating this thing we call life.
Being independent is a positive but communication is critical because everyone needs help sometime. Having a caring partner will be great when it happens but you will still have to ask others for help sometime.
This was great and so real and transparent! I was raised the same way and currently working on this gift and curse in my romantic relationship!!!! Thank you for sharing 💕
This was incredibly relatable and so timely. I am at this exact phase in life supporting aging parents and supporting my 92 year old granddad (things I'm forever grateful to be able to do). Trying to figure it all out in the midst of anxiety and so many 'to-dos'. Thank you so much for sharing. Gave me a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.
This was great. I’m an only child who was also raise by a single parent. I’m married but VERY independent! Felt every bit of what u went thru. I’ll be 50 on the 23rd of this month, I’m just now giving myself grace! It’s one step at a time and breathe thru it all. Ask God to guide you thru it all and whatever can’t get done at that time, don’t beat yourself up about it. It’ll be ok, then you’ll look back and say damn I was stressing about that.
beautiful and timely! i feel the weight of singleness and at times hit hits me like a ton of bricks. i deserve a great partner who shows up for me! “perfection isn't what makes someone worth loving”. ❤️❤️❤️
Felt all this except the partner bit, I was 19 going on 20 accompanying her to every surgery, chemo, check ups and radiation while at college. I had two other siblings and lots of family to pitch in but ultimately she was dying and that was the source of my turmoil for those 9ish months of trying to fight.
I love it when I have the chance to read your newsletters and this one was very personal for me. I became a caregiver to my mom (currently 96) 4 years ago. Its the hardest thing I've ever done and my care for her is for her day to day care as she is has limited mobility (its a lot). I also had MY hip replaced in the first year of becoming a caregiver but luckily I'm blessed to have had my husband to support me in all my aspects of recovery and in caring for my mom while I recovered. Like your mom, I'm a pretty active 60+ y/o and fortunately my post op experience was a little less dramatic than your moms. I was able to walk up stairs the same day and do all of the required exercises to be discharged the same day of surgery. My drama was the second and let me tell you it was not pretty but I survived and was back to working out within 6-8 weeks. Anyway, I really just wanted to say that I've been following you for a while and seeing all of your progress, and all that you've overcome and achieved, I just want to say YOU GOT THIS! Give yourself some grace. Unless they've done, most don't understand the stress of caring for an aging parent but whatever is to come you are your mothers daughter and you got this. Remember Gods Grace is unmeasurable and while its hard at time to see it, he has plans for you, your career and in bringing you your life partner. Be ready! Congratulations and I hope your mom has regained her strength and is up and at em'.
I'm in the same boat just on the opposite side of it. I am learning to push through the angst and anxiety I feel when I have to ask for help. I am also trusting that people will have the same level of grace and understanding I would give them if the shoe is on the other foot. It still doesn't feel good but it gets better with time.
This was so good and timely! ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you sooo much
As a single mother myself and only child of an extremely independent single mother, I know a thing or two about this gift and curse. It takes a strong human to ask for help and to be vulnerable in the process. Love watching you learn, heal and grow. Cheering from the sidelines, V.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are doing so much better than you think you are navigating this thing we call life.
Being independent is a positive but communication is critical because everyone needs help sometime. Having a caring partner will be great when it happens but you will still have to ask others for help sometime.
Shout out to your support system !
Thank you for this! ❤️
This was incredibly relatable. As a 33year old single woman I often have these thoughts about taking care of my mother. You are doing great ❤️
and same to you! 🥰🥰🥰
This was great and so real and transparent! I was raised the same way and currently working on this gift and curse in my romantic relationship!!!! Thank you for sharing 💕
❤️❤️❤️ thank you!!!!
This is how I feel these days. I do everything alone, that hyper-independence is a double edged sword. Sending you love.
Sending you love too! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
sooo good. thank you for sharing
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This was incredibly relatable and so timely. I am at this exact phase in life supporting aging parents and supporting my 92 year old granddad (things I'm forever grateful to be able to do). Trying to figure it all out in the midst of anxiety and so many 'to-dos'. Thank you so much for sharing. Gave me a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.
thank you for this! Sending you love as well! ❤️❤️❤️
This was great. I’m an only child who was also raise by a single parent. I’m married but VERY independent! Felt every bit of what u went thru. I’ll be 50 on the 23rd of this month, I’m just now giving myself grace! It’s one step at a time and breathe thru it all. Ask God to guide you thru it all and whatever can’t get done at that time, don’t beat yourself up about it. It’ll be ok, then you’ll look back and say damn I was stressing about that.
Whew! Grace has been the theme for me this year as well! ❤️❤️❤️ sending you love
Appreciate u❤️
beautiful and timely! i feel the weight of singleness and at times hit hits me like a ton of bricks. i deserve a great partner who shows up for me! “perfection isn't what makes someone worth loving”. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing and providing this platform where I don't feel alone!
Felt all this except the partner bit, I was 19 going on 20 accompanying her to every surgery, chemo, check ups and radiation while at college. I had two other siblings and lots of family to pitch in but ultimately she was dying and that was the source of my turmoil for those 9ish months of trying to fight.
Sis, the ultimate mind fuck is realizing you are an adult orphan, what you become after both of your parents are deceased. Thanks for this.
I love it when I have the chance to read your newsletters and this one was very personal for me. I became a caregiver to my mom (currently 96) 4 years ago. Its the hardest thing I've ever done and my care for her is for her day to day care as she is has limited mobility (its a lot). I also had MY hip replaced in the first year of becoming a caregiver but luckily I'm blessed to have had my husband to support me in all my aspects of recovery and in caring for my mom while I recovered. Like your mom, I'm a pretty active 60+ y/o and fortunately my post op experience was a little less dramatic than your moms. I was able to walk up stairs the same day and do all of the required exercises to be discharged the same day of surgery. My drama was the second and let me tell you it was not pretty but I survived and was back to working out within 6-8 weeks. Anyway, I really just wanted to say that I've been following you for a while and seeing all of your progress, and all that you've overcome and achieved, I just want to say YOU GOT THIS! Give yourself some grace. Unless they've done, most don't understand the stress of caring for an aging parent but whatever is to come you are your mothers daughter and you got this. Remember Gods Grace is unmeasurable and while its hard at time to see it, he has plans for you, your career and in bringing you your life partner. Be ready! Congratulations and I hope your mom has regained her strength and is up and at em'.
Keep climbing!
I'm in the same boat just on the opposite side of it. I am learning to push through the angst and anxiety I feel when I have to ask for help. I am also trusting that people will have the same level of grace and understanding I would give them if the shoe is on the other foot. It still doesn't feel good but it gets better with time.